Is It Really Cheating?

It used to be rather easy to define cheating; if your honey was making out with someone which could be anything from kissing to an full fledged bedroom romp, it was cheating. In other words it was the physicality that counted. These days we’re more self aware and couples have started to realize that where someone parks their emotions counts too.

Consequently when one partner of a couple forms a strong emotional or romantic bond with another member of the opposite (or same, depending on your orientation) sex, that can also count as cheating. It’s not as easy to define, but it’s easy to understand.

It also used to be easier to know when a spouse or lover was being unfaithful: suspiciously staying late at work more often, not calling when promised, sneaking away for phone calls, getting caught in liesoh, what I wouldn’t give to go back to the old days when it was easy to spot a philanderer from a mile away. One good slap in the face and you were done.

These days, with all the technology at our disposal including text messaging, social networking and internet dating, not to mention email, it’s become more difficult than ever to know how, and with whom, your partner may be communicating.

Sure, you could check cell phone call logs or sneak a peak at your sweethearts inbox, but doing so indicates a lack of trust. However, with all the newfangled ways of communicating and engaging in cyber relationships, it’s difficult to not speculate, isn’t it?

What’s more, if you do find out that the person you’re seeing is texting someone else all the time, or exchanging flirty (or worse) e-mails, where is the line of what’s acceptable anymore? Things are all in such a gray area where this is concerned, that it’s feasible for you to call out your lover on these indiscretions and have them actually argue that they aren’t doing anything wrong.

Talk it through

We might as well accept that social networks like Facebook and MySpace exist and they’re not going to go away anytime soon. That cell phone in your honey’s pocket? Same thing. Though communication methods have changed over the years, one thing that hasn’t is the fact that trust is still a relationship basic.

If your trust is tested and you start worrying about the kinds of communication your other half is having, you’re going to have to do something that is going to be a bit stressful. You’re going to have to talk to your partner about what constitutes cheating.

Every couple will come up with a different answer to this. It doesn’t really matter what I think because the resolution will differ from one relationship to the next. Just remember to be true to yourself and don’t agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Mutually agreeable boundaires are the way to go.

Keep the focus positive and spend less energy focusing on what could go wrong and more energy on the good stuff. Concentrate on making your relationship the best it can be by keeping each other interested and intrigued.

This article was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read thousands of helpful dating articles.

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